4 Highly Recommended NYC IFS Therapists
At EveryBody Psychotherapy NYC, we know what it's like to feel pulled in different directions—one part of you wanting change while another holds you back. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy helps you understand these inner conflicts with compassion. Here, we highlight local IFS specialists who can support you through this process. Find your fit and reach out when you’re ready to begin.
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Best for IFS therapy for trauma: Pam Skop
Best for IFS therapy for perinatal mental health: Zoe Dartley
Best for IFS therapy with medication management: Jill Ahluwalia
Best for IFS therapy for high-achievers: Mary Tate
Meet our NYC IFS specialists
Pam Skop
Best for IFS therapy for trauma
I use parts work to help people like you heal from relational trauma that’s left pieces of you feeling rejected, misunderstood, and alone. I combine my training in IFS with somatic and body-based approaches to help you find healing that goes beyond intellectual understanding and shows up as real, embodied safety and confidence.
Credentials: Licensed Mental Health Counselor with Diagnostic Privilege, Certified Eating Disorders Specialist, Registered Yoga Teacher
Location: Virtual in NYC
Virtual therapy?: Yes, available in NY, NJ, & PA
Zoe Dartley
Best for IFS therapy for Perinatal Mental Health
I bring my extensive background as a NICU and Labor and Delivery social worker to parts work, supporting perinatal and postpartum individuals and families through one of life's most transformative experiences. This time in life can bring up long-forgotten feelings and dynamics (as well as new ones), which is exactly why I love using IFS to help people navigate this season.
Credentials: Licensed Master Social Worker #117958
Location: Virtual in NYC
Virtual therapy?: Yes, available in NY & CO
Jill Ahluwalia
Best for IFS therapy with medication management
Jill is a board-certified psychiatric nurse practitioner who has completed Level I training through the IFS Institute. She integrates this approach with medication management, offering a comprehensive approach for adolescents and adults navigating complex mental health challenges.
Credentials: Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner - Board Certified
Location: New York, NY 10017
Virtual therapy?: Yes, available in NY and CT
Mary Tate
Best for IFS therapy for high-achievers
Mary brings over a decade of experience supporting high-achieving adults and teens through anxiety, perfectionism, burnout, and major life transitions. She has completed Level I training through the IFS Institute, and she helps clients go beyond surface-level coping to deeply understand and embrace themselves.
Credentials: Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Location: New York, NY 10010
Virtual therapy?: Yes, available in NY and NC
What sets our practice apart from other NYC IFS therapy providers
We believe healing happens when you feel truly seen and supported. Here’s why our clients choose us:
Weight-neutral, body-affirming care that honors all bodies and identities
Trauma-informed practice grounded in nervous system regulation and attachment theory
Diverse team of specialists with expertise in eating disorders, perinatal mental health, queer-affirming care, and neurodivergence
Integrative approach blending IFS with somatic work, motivational interviewing, and body-based awareness
Flexible fee options, including sliding scale availability to meet different financial needs
Hybrid care model offering both virtual and in-person sessions
Still not sure if we’re a match? Contact us for a free consultation so we can talk one-on-one.
Common reasons why people seek IFS therapy
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One part of you desperately wants things to be different, while another part keeps hitting the brakes. IFS helps you understand why these internal conflicts exist and how to move forward with all parts on board.
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You notice yourself repeating the same behaviors around food, relationships, or self-care, even when you know they're not serving you. Parts work reveals the protective functions behind these patterns and creates pathways for lasting change.
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Certain situations trigger intense reactions that feel out of proportion, leaving you feeling overwhelmed or disconnected. IFS offers a gentle way to work with traumatized parts while building internal resources and safety.
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There's a relentless voice in your head pointing out everything you're doing wrong, making it hard to feel good about yourself. IFS helps you understand this critical part's protective intention and transform that relationship.
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Major changes—whether in your gender, sexuality, family structure, or life stage—can bring up conflicting feelings and confusion. Parts work provides clarity and self-compassion during times of transformation.
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Different parts have different reactions to eating, exercise, and body image, creating internal chaos and shame. IFS creates space for these parts to be heard and helps you develop a more peaceful, intuitive relationship with food and your body.
What to expect from the therapy process
Step 1. Free consultation call
We start with a complimentary phone consultation where you can share what brings you to therapy and ask questions about our approach. This no-pressure conversation helps us determine if we're the right fit for your needs and goals.
Step 2. Initial assessment & goal-setting
In your first few sessions, we'll explore your history, current challenges, and what you hope to achieve through IFS therapy. Together, we'll create a collaborative treatment plan that honors your unique experience and identifies which parts need attention first.
Step 3. Active IFS work & exploration
You'll begin the heart of parts work—learning to identify, listen to, and build relationships with your different parts. Through guided exercises and conversations, you'll explore the protective roles these parts play and begin healing wounded aspects of yourself.
Step 4. Ongoing integration & support
As you develop a stronger connection to Self and your parts shift into healthier roles, we'll focus on sustaining these changes in daily life. Sessions become a space to navigate new challenges, deepen your self-compassion, and celebrate your growing internal harmony.
FAQs about internal family systems therapy
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IFS is a therapeutic approach that conceptualizes people as being divided into different “parts” or subpersonalities, each with its own perspective, feelings, and role. By developing a relationship with these parts from a place of curiosity and compassion (connecting to your "Self"), you can heal internal conflicts and trauma, leading to greater emotional freedom and self-acceptance.
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IFS can be used for a wide range of challenges, including eating disorders, trauma and PTSD, anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, perinatal mental health, identity exploration, neurodivergence, body image struggles, and life transitions. If you’re not sure whether IFS is right for what you’re going through, contact us for a free consultation.
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Unlike traditional therapy that tries to eliminate or change unwanted behaviors, IFS recognizes that all parts have positive intentions—even the ones causing problems. This non-pathologizing approach creates internal collaboration, often leading to faster, deeper healing because parts feel understood instead of criticized.
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IFS is a specific therapeutic model developed by Richard Schwartz with defined concepts like Self, managers, firefighters, and exiles. The term “parts work” is another way of referring to IFS. It is sometimes used to differentiate training in IFS from formal certification through the IFS Institute.
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IFS identifies three main types of parts: Managers (who try to keep you safe through control and planning), Firefighters (who react impulsively when you're overwhelmed to distract from pain), and Exiles (who carry wounded feelings from past experiences). Self is the compassionate, curious, calm core of who you are that encapsulates all parts.
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IFS can be helpful if you notice internal conflicts, struggle with self-criticism, or feel disconnected from yourself. It can also be helpful for anyone seeking deeper self-understanding and integration. If you’re not sure whether IFS is right for you, contact us for a free consultation so we can discuss your situation directly.